Double joy: Nativity scene gifted by my sister and Christmas tree with gifts by my caregivers!
It was the night before Christmas and all through the house, not a creature was stirring, not even a mouse. The children were nestled all snug in their beds, while visions of sugarplums danced in their heads.
As the clock ticked closer to midnight, a sense of excitement and joy filled the air. The entire family had gathered together to celebrate the most wonderful time of the year.
They feasted on a delicious holiday meal and exchanged gifts, showering each other with love and laughter. And as the night wore on, they danced and sang to the sounds of traditional holiday music.
As the new year approached, the family raised their glasses and toasted to a bright and prosperous future. “¡Feliz Navidad 2022 y Prospero Año 2023!” they cheered, as the sound of fireworks filled the sky.
And with hearts full of love and joy, the family knew that no matter what the future may bring, they would always have each other to lean on and cherish the memories of this special night.
I was going to write a sappy (but hopefully entertaining) blog post for the holidays; But there’s a new kid in town; he may not be as sappy but he’s very entertaining and much more efficient!
Mis tres tíos maternos siempre la llamaron “La Mar” y no lo gramáticamente correcto “El Mar”. Y tenian razón: La Mar es femenina, es temperamental; Puede obsequiarte exquisitos regalos o puede desencadenar su furia contra ti.
Desde niño siempre oí a mis familiares decir “Debe ser que ha bajado Serafín”, cuándo iba al litoral desde mi ciudad natal de Caracas y la mar estaba picada.
Mis tres tíos maternos: Paco, Pin y Tolin inmigraron a Venezuela junto con mi tía Titi y una niña sin sobrenombre pero llamada con diversos nombres por familiares y amigos: Mi Madre. Escapaban juntos a sus padres de la tiranía de Franco; Mi abuelo peleó en la guerra civil de España, en el lado perdedor y el nuevo gobierno le dijo: Puedes vivir en cualquier parte del mundo menos en España. Mis tres tíos emigraron a Venezuela ya siendo jovenes y nunca perdieron su acento español a diferencia de mi tía y mi madre
Mi tío Serafín siempre se ocupo que la empresa de su hermano mayor operará eficientemente, lo que la hizo crecer exitosamente. Lamentablemente, esto le sirvió muy poco a la hora de retirarse, cuando de verdad lo necesitaba y claramente lo merecía.
Lo que más le gustaba a mi tío Serafín era salir a pescar con su hermano menor, mi tío Juan, en su pequeño y austero cayuco (“La Victoria”, nombrado como su madre) anclado entre lujosas lanchas y yates en un magnífico club de playa, al lado de Naiguata. Me acuerdo tener que ayudar a mi primo Juanin a achicar y revisar “La Victoria” para que estuviera preparada para su padre, mi tío Juan, y nuestro tío Serafín. También me acuerdo cuando estando en Caracas, y se aparecían mis tíos Serafín y Juan con sendos refrigeradores portátiles, repletos de pescados qué compartian con mi madre y otros familiares.
Como acertadamente dijo una de mis dos hermosas primas (sus únicas hijas: María Fernanda ‘Nanda’ y Verónica): “Paz a su alma y a celebrar con Juanito Chipiron, el Whisky que pidió en el Hospital”.
Every year I have two traditions for this wonderful time of year: I set up a Nativity that my sister Pimpollito (cute little bird) made and gave to me; It’s very small and she made it many moons ago. This year one of my caregivers set it up and he included a simple wooden set that my mother gave me a couple of years ago.
The second tradition is to watch “It’s a Wonderful Live” which makes me realize how precious life is … and always makes me cry.
Cada año tengo dos tradiciones para esta maravillosa época del año: montar un Nacimiento que mi hermana Pimpollito hizo y me regaló; Es muy pequeño y lo hizo hace muchas lunas. Este año, uno de mis asistentes lo instaló e incluyó un simple nacimiento de madera que mi madre me dio hace un par de años.
La segunda tradición es ver “It’s a Wonderful Live”, lo que me hace darme cuenta de lo preciosa que la vida es… y siempre me hace llorar. Como canta José Feliciano,les deseo a ustedes y a sus seres queridos:
…Feliz Navidad, Próspero año y felicidad.
…I wanna wish you a merry Christmas, from the bottom of my heart…
Just as I have pointed out in years past, most Spaniards and Latin Americans won’t wish you a “Happy New Year” but a prosperous one. I guess if you have a prosperous year, it will be a happy one. After the hardships of 2020, we all deserve a prosperous 2021.
Very few days of 2020 have been great; And they have all involved seeing family and friends, specially my mother and sister, and my children (even if it was on video) and their respective boyfriend/girlfriend. Alas, I won’t be physically seeing them for the holidays because of the coronavirus, like a majority of people around the world. I’ll be happy with group video calls, hopefully including one with my college buddies.
This year has not been kind to me: It all began in May when my Mom (who started living with me since 2019) had her flight to the US cancelled, from a visit to her native Spain, because of covid-19 restrictions implemented one week before her return flight. Then on 9/11 my divorce from Mik became final after 37 years of wonderful marriage, and alas 2½ years of legal separation. Unfortunately, I lost a step-brother in my native Venezuela (QEPD Pablo Jose) and a close friend who had retired to his dream home in Dana Point (RIP Vince) to covid-19. I also lost my dear mother-in-law (RIP Faye) who thankfully passed away peacefully in her sleep.
But even though 2020 was an awful year, I also had some great days: Every Monday morning I have a video call with my Mom in Spain and my Sister in Venezuela. I had lunch with my Daughter and her boyfriend on Thanksgiving, and then had an unexpected video call with my Son (who lives in NorCal) at the end of the day. I was also introduced to his beautiful girlfriend. Just last week, I had a Zoom call with some of my high-school classmates; We set up a WhatsApp group and have been posting all kind of messages. Even though I keep in regular touch with three of them, I had not been in contact with most of these people in 45 years —As opposed to the US, in Venezuelan high schools, you stay together with about 40 people in your ‘section’ and the professors come to your classroom; You develop life-long friendships with most of these people—
Even though I conduct most of my contract work via emails and phone calls, I have a cherished ‘drop-by’ routine when I visit the Irvine office of Spireon in the middle of the week, seeing everyone shortly, and meeting with the engineering and managerial staff for Intellectual Property matters. So the WFH reality has not really impacted me but I realize what a hermit I’ve become. I live by a wonderful Town Center, and I used to run errands or just be outside almost daily, on my wheelchair (I’m handicapped with restricted use of my hands and arms because of a skiing misfortune). Now I just go outside once or twice a week, when is completely necessary and almost always acompanied by one of my caregivers. For work, I also conduct a quarterly IP Committee meeting and had not been able to schedule them; Just a few days ago I was able to conduct a productive Zoom meeting and get IP matters back on-track for the year.
When my old company PROCON (PROtect & CONnect) got acquired by a VC several years ago, my old friend and CEO was ousted and he formed a new company (Advantage Automotive Analítics) that currently competes in some markets with Spireon. His new company is also in Irvine and I would visit its offices every couple of months since I have many wonderful friendships with ex-coworkers, who ended up working at AAA. My old boss is also responsible for my new career in IP from being a “glorified hacker” to CIO (Career Is Over!) I miss visiting AAA and even though one could qualify these visits as akward, that’s another routine that I enjoyed and was not able to do in 2020.
I currently live by myself and none of my lifestyle would be possible, without my wonderful caregivers. I usually have daily help from 9am to 3pm but what gives me great flexibility, is to rely on a night caregiver that transfers me to bed and helps me with my end-of-day routines. She is outstanding as are all my other caregivers!
When I compare my situation with other people who are even able-bodied, I realize how grateful I should be. Even though 2020 has been an awful year, I am thankful for my health, my family and friends, my caregivers and my co-workers; And for everything I have been able to accomplish this year.
I’m becoming an old man; I find that nothing puts the day in perspective than wake-up routines. One of the first routines I do is to check with my mom to see what phone wallpaper she’s chosen for the day. When I first suffered my skiing injury, I was in Craig hospital for four months and she would call me daily to inquire on my well-being with an invariable: “How are you feeling today?” At the time, she lived by herself in Solares, a little town in northern Spain close to where she was born, and I would also worry about her well-being. I decided that instead of asking the same question every day, we could start our chats by playing a little game: I installed two apps on her phone that changes her wallpaper to whatever she chooses: An astronomy picture or a scenic/nature one; APOD got real cute today and decided to celebrate Halloween by publishing these pictures today.
Courtesy of https://www.getdailyart.com
Another one of my wake-up routines (and the last one before checking my daily schedule) is to check out DailyArt which chose “Memento Mori Mosaic from Pompeii” to celebrate Halloween and I found it very appropriate:
“This Roman mosaic from one of the houses in Pompeii (it was placed in the triclinium, which was a formal dining room) represents the Wheel of Fortune which, as it turns, can make the rich (symbolized by the purple cloth on the left) poor and the poor (symbolized by the goatskin at right) rich; in effect both states are very precarious, with death never far and life hanging by a thread: when it breaks, the soul (symbolized by the butterfly) flies off. And thus are all made equal! The theme, like the skeletons on the silverware in the treasure of Boscoreale, was intended to remind diners of the fleeting nature of earthly fortunes.”
As I get older, I find that I have to plan my weeks in advance. Not only do I rely on my caregivers, I also have a lot of people that rely on me and having a calendar event or reminder, allows me to schedule my time properly.
I like to have a main theme that I rotate for the weeks ahead and I find that these three sentences put the coming weeks in perspective:
Learn from the Past
Do in the Present
Plan for the Future
This week (44th of the year) is important: Not only do we merrily celebrate Halloween, but also Daylight Savings Time ends. And of course, it’s “Do in the Present!”
